The Case Against Unconditional Love

I will not make the claim that unconditional love doesn't exist. This is not to refute the existence of the vast reservoirs of possibilities for the expression and our perception of all things that bask in the pure potential to appear to us as amazing, holy even. However, I will claim that you're using the term incorrectly. When you say, "I love you unconditionally," even the syntax betrays you. You are using love here as an active verb, one with a direct object, and establishing yourself as the agent in the exchange. What's problematic here is that, according to Buddhist philosophy, any action is a changing thing. And any changing thing is a caused thing. Being a caused thing means that it is the result of causes and conditions, and is therefore necessarily conditional. Allow me to paraphrase the Shakyamuni Buddha's Four Arya Truths:
  1. We suffer.
  2. There are causes for our suffering.
  3. We don't have to suffer.
  4. There are causes for our n

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